Friday, July 27, 2012

Starting up again!

Sometimes you just need a break. I know I did, so I took one. So much was going on in our lives (moving homes again, learning to be a mom to two kids, continuing to build community, husbands busy work schedule, etc.) that sometimes you just need a break to figure out what you want to do. I want to write about all that I am and have been learning as I continue to learn about being a housewife, but have not had the time or energy to put it down. My thoughts were still with this blog because I kept stopping once in a while to document ideas I wanted to write about but none made it past a one line note. I am starting to see some of the light in the clouds. Starting to get some breathing time to think about what I want to say about my life, do with my life, etc.

Here are a few things I have learned:

  1. I want to do my job well but what that looks like is different then I thought… As a Mom, a homemaker, your job is not just a list of to-dos you cross off at the end of the day. So often you start a task and don’t finish it until another time. So often you have to choose - play with your kids or get the dishes done. I decided to redefine what my job looks like and work to do it well based on my new definition. The cool thing is that the definition of housewife is now so very personal. I would love to hear what you think your ‘job’ of being a homemaker looks like to you!
  2. When you get a moment for rest and take them with both hands…no apologies! Since I am not making money, I keep trying to rationalize my worth by not taking breaks. It ends up not being helpful because no one can keep up at that pace. I need to remember to stop, breath, take a moment and do something just for me. But most of all, to try not to feel bad about it. I say try because lets be honest, I am not always going to succeed but I should always try. I continue am learning to be ok with taking breaks and taking care of myself too.
  3. Be willing to try new things. When mastering the art of caring for others be willing to try new things. Be ok with trying out new way of doing things until you figure out what works best for your family. Experiment with new motivation tools and be ok when that new thing does not work. Then, start again and try something new.
  4. Be prepared for change and accepting you cannot control life. I am a structure-based person and sometimes that means I struggle with change. I like to know when things will happen and figure out ways to prepare. The truth is, you cannot prepare for all change, you cannot control everything, and you need to learn to be flexable. My family needs, wants, and motivators are changing every day. I have been learning figure out what I need to cope with this constant change.
There is allot more I have been learning but this is a start. I hope to find more time to write but make no promises because time management is something that takes time to master, and I am only a novice.

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